Friday, April 21, 2006
Forgive and Forget
There's not much reason to forget, if forgiveness occurs. Sure, it's probably best to forget much of what happened, but not all of it. Forgetting implies a loss of perspective, so I think when taken singly, it's overrated.
But then, it's an entirely different thing to be told to forget without forgiveness. That's like skipping dinner and pretending one is full. Maybe you can put it out of your mind for a few hours. But when nine or ten o'clock rolls around: damnit, you're hungry.
It's a catchy phrase, "forgive and forget", but it's not the repetition that's important. Forgive and forget are both FOR something. Which is why it blows my mind at how everyone sees "forgive and forget" and thinks, "Oh, yeah, just forget about it and we'll be friends again."
This has been a really long-winded way of saying, "I don't think so."
But then, it's an entirely different thing to be told to forget without forgiveness. That's like skipping dinner and pretending one is full. Maybe you can put it out of your mind for a few hours. But when nine or ten o'clock rolls around: damnit, you're hungry.
It's a catchy phrase, "forgive and forget", but it's not the repetition that's important. Forgive and forget are both FOR something. Which is why it blows my mind at how everyone sees "forgive and forget" and thinks, "Oh, yeah, just forget about it and we'll be friends again."
This has been a really long-winded way of saying, "I don't think so."
